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Tearing Down Stealth Bondages That Are Shipwrecking Our Relationships. – Mind Game Part 2

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June 17, 2018

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Tearing Down Stealth Bondages That Are Shipwrecking Our Relationships. – Mind Game Part 2

 

Tearing Down Stealth Bondages That Are Shipwrecking Our Relationships. – Mind Game Part 2

True Story: Maryam and Tunde’s Relationship Is In The Middle of A Major Storm That Won’t Go Away Except They Take Some Major Steps. Would they?

Discovery Bible Study Scriptures:

John 8:31-32 – If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples and you will know the truth andthe truth will set you free.

2 Corinthians 10:4-5 For the weapons of our warfare are not physical, but they are mighty before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds. In as much as we refute arguments and theories and reasoning and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself against the true knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ.

Romans 12:2 – Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind so that you may prove what is good and acceptable and perfect will of God even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect in His sight for you.

Luke 4:18-19

The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners.

Questions: What are the truth you are learning from the above scriptures? If this is true, what commitments can you make to obey in keeping with the truth in the scriptures above? Who would you share these truth with and your commitment for witnessing and accountability purposes?

SUMMARY from Part 1: Click link http://www.otakada.org/tearing-down-stealth-bondages-that-are-shipwrecking-our-relationships-mind-game-part-1

As Maryam learnt to use her weapons, she will begin to tear down the stronghold that had been built in her mind. She will know the TRUTH that will set her free. She will see that not all men are her earthly father.  Some are, but many are not. Her husband, is not. Tunde loves her very much..

Let us explore Tunde’s side. Tunde had very serious issues dating back to childhood as well.. Stay connected not to part 2

Tunde’s side of the story…

The other side of the story involves Tunde. He too had problems that are contributing factor that he and Maryam face in their marriage, home, and family.

Tunde should be taking his position as head of the family. God intends for him to be the priest of his home. Tunde is also born again and knows the proper order for family life. He knows that he should not allow his wife to run the household, the finances, the children and him. He knows all this and does not do anything about it except feel defeated and retreat into TV and Sports.

Tunde is hiding from his responsibility because he hates confrontation.

He prefers to take a passive attitude, thinking, “Well, if I just leave this situation alone, perhaps it will work itself out.” Or, he excuses himself by taking real action by saying, “I will pray about it.” Of course,  prayer is good, but not if it is merely a away of avoiding responsibility.

Let me clarify what I mean when I say Tunde should assume his God given position in the home. I don’t mean that he should come like “Mr Macho,” ranting and raving about his authority.

Ephesians 5:25 teaches that a man should love his wife as Christ loved the church. Tunde needs to take his responsibility and with responsibility comes authority.  He should be firm with his wife- Loving but firm. He should reassure Maryam that though she was hurt as a child, and she releases herself to God through trusting Him, she will gain confidence that not all men are like her father was.

Tunde should be doing a lot of things; but like Maryam, he also has “mindset” that open the door for the devil to hold him captive. There is also a battle going on in Tunde’s mind. Like Maryam, he was verbally abused in his childhood. His domineering mother had a sharp tongue and frequently said hurtful things to him, things like: “Tunde, you are just a mess; you will never amount to anything.” Tunde tried had to please his mother because he craved her approval ( As all children do} ; But the harder he tried, the more mistakes he made. He had a habit of been clumsy.  Of course, he dropped things because he was trying so hard to please that it made him nervous, and so he defeated his purpose.

He also experienced some unfortunate rejection from children with whom he desired to be friends.  This type of things happen to most of us at some times in our lives, but it devastated Tunde because he already felt rejected by his mother.

And there was a girl whom he really liked in his early high school years who rejected him for another boy. By the time all of this had tailed up in Tunde’s life and the devil had worked on him , building strongholds in his mind for years and years, Tunde simply had no courage to be anything but quiet, shy, and withdrawn.

Tunde is low key type person who simply chooses not to make waves. For years he had been having thoughts directed into him that goes something like this: “There is no point in telling anyone what you thing; they won’t listen anyway. You wants people to accept you, you just need to go along with whatever they want.”

The few times he tried to stand his ground on an issue, it seems that he always ended up losing, so he finally decided that confrontation wasn’t worth the effort.

“ I am going to lose anyway in the end, “ he reasoned, “ so why even start anything?” .

With Tunde and Maryam’s conflicting problems, it is not too had to imagine what their home life is like. Remember, there was a lot of strife. Strife isn’t always open warfare. Many time, strife is an angry undercurrent in the home that everyone knows is there, but nobody deals with it. The atmosphere is terrible and the devil loves it!

What will happen to Tunde and Maryam and their children? Will they make it? They are Christians and it be a shame to see their marriage fail and their family ruined. Actually, though, it is up to them.  John 8:31-32 will be a key scripture in their decision. If they continue to study Gods word, they will know the truth and acting on the truth will set them free. But they must each face the truth about themselves and their past as God reveals it to them.

The truth is always revealed through the word; but sadly; people don’t always accept it. It is a painful process to face or faults and deal with them. Generally speaking, people justify misbehavior. They allow the past and how they were raised to negatively affect the rest of their lives.

Our past may explain why we are suffering, but we must not use it as excuse to stay in bondage.

Everyone is without excuse because Jesus always stand ready to fulfil His promise to set the captives free. He will work us across the finished line of victory in any area if we are willing to go all the way through it with him.

Happy Father’s Day!

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